“Why do we shout in ANGER“? What about LOVE?!
A Guru asked his followers, “Why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?”
His followers thought for a while and one of them said…..
“Because we lose our calm, we shout for that”.
“But, why do you shout when the other person is just next to you?”
asked the guru. “Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?”
Followers gave some other answers but none satisfied the guru.
Finally he explained…..
“When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot.
To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each
other through that great distance.”
Then the guru asked…..
“What happens when two people fall in love?
They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why?
Because their hearts are very close.
The distance between them is very small“.
The guru continued…..
“When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all.
That is how close two people are when they love each other”.
‘MORAL’ said the guru…..
“When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words
that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the
distance is so great that you will not find the path to return!”
“The source of anger is your (hot) liver and also your upbringing. These two things (may) give you horrible anger. Unless and until you witness yourself, your Realization has no meaning. You should separate your Self from yourself and see for yourself what is really wrong with you. Now, supposing somebody is a very hot-tempered person, instead of taking pride in it or using that temper to control others, he should try to control himself. How? Anybody who wants to be a saint should know that anger, should have no place”.
“Another very bad enemy we have is our anger. The anger gives birth to anger. So all this aggressiveness comes from anger. If somebody has to be angry, he should be angry with himself.”
“If you have anger inside you, means you have got lots of ego. I have seen that the people who are angry are very explosive. And they take pride in it saying that: Yes, I’m very angry man.”
“Best is to get rid of anger: you can pull your hair, you can bite yourself, you can use your pillow to hit yourself! [laughs] That may be the best way to take out your anger. 🙂 ”
“The anger is the worst of all the enemies; all other negativities emanate from anger. Anger brings to us attachment and then the person repents over what he has said: But in the fit of anger he goes out of self-control and blurts-out all the dirt that was hidden in his heart since long. That comes out of his mouth. We have to be beware of this anger. Why do we get angry, we have to think over it.”
“There are people who are angry with a particular person. There are others who are angry with some society. So people get angry for different causes. But we should think as to why we get angry. ” (Shri Mataji’s talk on Spirit “MahaShivaratri Puja” – India, February 14, 1999)
“We should keep our heart clean. The greatest malady of the heart is anger. When anger enters a person then all purity gets destroyed. Because the other name of Purity is Love which is completely clean and straight forward, that love that flows eternally and wants nothing (Nirvajya in Sanskrit). Its satisfaction is in the fact that it keeps flowing and when it cannot flow it becomes disturbed. Purity means that you fill your heart with love and not anger.”
“Anger is our enemy and also the enemy of the world. All the wars of this world, the failures have been due to this collective anger. There can be many excuses for anger. Even the terrible things like war comes from anger. If there is love in the heart, then anger cannot arise. And if one has to make a show of anger then even that is for love. ” (Shri Mataji’s Talk on her birthday – March 30, 1990 – Delhi, India)